Is it possible to have opposite sex friends who are attractive?

[Dr. P]

Or same sex, if you're gay.

[TheWagesofSin]

I think more women will say "yes" than men. We always want sess. I'm not sure ugliness even makes a difference, necessarily.

[Dr. P]

I voted yes.
I have a good friend I've known for about 5 years (female and smoking hot) who cleans my house on Fridays. Most of you are aware that I'm some prime real-estate myself, (when KFJ and I walk down the street, I mean to tell ya ladies, it's chill bump time). Anyhooo....


This girl is just beach front property beautiful. Like, roll out of bed in the morning with curlers in her hair beautiful.

And she's my good friend and I don't even think about making out with her anymore. It's the strangest thing.

[the deta]

i have a female friend who is one of the best friends i have.

[BowlHaircut]

I voted yes as well. It can be done even with a very beautiful woman.

Especially for mature men who need more than that. I've gotten over my stage of dating women strictly for looks and not caring about the important things like personality, criminal records and the like.

[FearAndLoathingInSoCal]

Voted yes...

How about this one - is it possible to become and remain friends with an attractive female without ever wanting something more from them? I know a few girls (one being my ex) who could model - I'm comfortable being friends with them now but once saw them differently.






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[Dr. P]

Voted yes...

How about this one - is it possible to become and remain friends with an attractive female without ever wanting something more from them?






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That would depend on the context of meeting them and how they conducted themselves. If I met a beautiful girl at church, and the time we spent together was innocent and relaxed, yes. Okay, I have an attractive girl type friend from that very scenario. She has no sex appeal to me because I wouldn't ever imagine doing anything to her. She's like a kid sister. But if early on we'd spent our afternoon venturing into Victoria's Secret, knocking back Cape Cods by the pool, and watching sexy, romantic movies together, all bets would have been off.

[TheWagesofSin]

.... But if early on we'd spent our afternoon venturing into Victoria's Secret, knocking back Cape Cods by the pool, and watching sexy, romantic movies together, all bets would have been off.
Exactly. If you've got a really hot friend, and that thought NEVER crosses your mind-

gay.

Signed,
Tom Leykis

[TedBellLover]

I voted yes.
I have a good friend I've known for about 5 years (female and smoking hot) who cleans my house on Fridays. Most of you are aware that I'm some prime real-estate myself, (when KFJ and I walk down the street, I mean to tell ya ladies, it's chill bump time). Anyhooo....


This girl is just beach front property beautiful. Like, roll out of bed in the morning with curlers in her hair beautiful.

And she's my good friend and I don't even think about making out with her anymore. It's the strangest thing.

Oh My God, you are so gay.
:gay:

[Dr. P]

Attraction is not a choice. It's organic, you can't manufacture it because you think a girl is a great person. You may love who she is and care about her, but she'll never be a "sex-object" to you. Those who say otherwise are fooling themselves. I have a string of ex-gf's who aren't good, sweet and genuine like girl/friends I have who would date me tomorrow.
And I don't apologize for it. That's no personality flaw in myself, that's universal law. Women and men are exactly the same way in that respect.

[FearAndLoathingInSoCal]

Attraction is not a choice. It's organic, you can't manufacture it because you think a girl is a great person. You may love who she is and care about her, but she'll never be a "sex-object" to you. Those who say otherwise are fooling themselves. I have a string of ex-gf's who aren't good, sweet and genuine like girl/friends I have who would date me tomorrow.
And I don't apologize for it. That's no personality flaw in myself, that's universal law. Women and men are exactly the same way in that respect.

Whatever gayboy :gay: :gay: :gay:

Hahah, joking... I agree, attraction isn't a choice. Unless she's a gold-digger, but then her attraction is to your wallet. In my case, a girl's attraction is to something else I keep in my pants :chicks: (hint: that's not a large wad of dough)

[Dr. P]

Whatever gayboy :gay: :gay: :gay:

Hahah, joking... I agree, attraction isn't a choice. Unless she's a gold-digger, but then her attraction is to your wallet. In my case, a girl's attraction is to something else I keep in my pants :chicks: (hint: that's not a large wad of dough)
I knew you had a big ol' booty!:gay:
I just could tell by your posts!

[Angelina_Jelly]

Gold diggers....don't even get me started.

It is really hard to have a wealthy successful boyfriend. There are always young pretties who are trying to get into his pocket. The more power, wealth and success they have, the more temptation they have and the easier the opportunity to submit.

There are a surfeit of examples. Studio bosses back in the day. Hollywood producers. Politicians. Successful Surgeons. Rock Stars. Athletes. These men can and do get a lot of extramarital sess in general. Source: my own personal research which may not include a scientific random sampling.

[KungFuJesus]

I have no use for female friends who won't let me bone them. I have a sister if I need a female's opinion about something.
:thumbsup:

[Mr. Irrelevant]

I have no use for female friends who won't let me bone them. I have a sister if I need a female's opinion about something.
:thumbsup:

Wurd! That's why I try to stay away from the female species as much as possible on accounta me being married and all. I don't want to open the door for something that I might later regret.

When I was single, I never wanted to be friends with a woman, especially a smokin' hot one. They were either going to be in my bed at some point or they simply didn't exsist. I'm not saying this is right, I'm just saying that this was how I was wired.

[Dr. P]

Oh, Savvy?!!!!!

Ahhhh.
Let me help out AJ, first!


The answer to this question is complex.
It doesn't have to be, AJ. So much is determined by the people you surround yourself with. There are people I see at work every day I get along great with (though they would/do hate my beliefs) because I use the RussyPelican Block n' roll technique. I'm only half-kidding. You never purposely demonstrate higher value to anyone you wouldn't want to have sexually interested in you. You can't change their attraction to your physical appearance, but you can be in a relationship, or otherwise in a state of necessitated disinterest that isn't personal.




In order for a woman to keep the friendship platonic she may find that it takes a lot of stength and finesse on her part.
Only if she sends signals. Men (well, human beings) are pre-programmed to know initial IOI's, or Indicators Of Interest. I have a canned line I use on women I don't want to get physical with, just as soon as they grab my hat, shirt, or breach physical contact in any way. "Hey now, hands off the merchandise!" It's funny and disarming, but they will seldom try again without a prompt from my end. Try it. Sounds silly, it works.



Hetero man/ woman friendships are tricky.
They are simply the easiest of relationships, in my experience. My best friends are 50% girl-type people. They respect knowing they can talk to you about anything or sleep in your house without the thought ever even crossing their mind that you might want more than friendship.

This is one of the reasons why one can see many examples women having close friendships with gay men. The gay man will tell you like it is with no hidden agenda for ses.
So will a straight man who likes you for who you are, by the way.


Human weakness is pervasive. Don't we all struggle with this?

Yep. But I think healthy people with an active social life realize how many awesome people there are out there in this world, and would never get hung up on one person because they happen to be in front of them.

This concludes Russy Pelican's "How to not make chicks hit on you." PM me for Russy Pelican's "How to get chicks to hit on You." for the low, low price of $19.95!:thumbsup:

[DPW]

The true test of these ridiculous platonic relationships is to get drunk with each other. If you don't want to have sex with her, either she's ugly or your gay.

[TheWagesofSin]

The true test of these ridiculous platonic relationships is to get drunk with each other. If you don't want to have sex with her, either she's ugly or your gay.
I've failed that test a couple of times...and they were some of the greatest experiences of my life!!

I'll say no more.

[Angelina_Jelly]

The true test of these ridiculous platonic relationships is to get drunk with each other. If you don't want to have sex with her, either she's ugly or your gay.

lmao lmao lmao

[Angelina_Jelly]

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[Angelina_Jelly]

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Sorry to spam up another thread. Again it is all just blah blah blah blah panties.

[Boss]

One of my best friends is female and she's been a great friend since our first year of college, 23 years ago. And she is very beautiful. Never boned, never will. My wife and her have also become close over the years. What if they go lesbo and I watch? Does that count?

[the deta]

Blah blah blah blah blah blah, Blah. Blah bla blah blah blah. BLAH. Blah blah blah blah sess blah blah blah blah. blah blah blah blah. Blah Blah Blah have sess with me. Blah blah blah blah blah. Blah blah blah blah. Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.

BLah bla blah blah.

Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. blah blah blah blahblah blah blah blah panties .


Great post Jelly! :thumbsup:

[Dr. P]

Great post Jelly! :thumbsup:
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[Mr. Irrelevant]

The true test of these ridiculous platonic relationships is to get drunk with each other. If you don't want to have sex with her, either she's ugly or your gay.

:score:

[Sticky Fumblings]

I think it would be very appropriate at this point in the discussion to remind Russy to get his hand offa my ass.

:thumbsup:

[the deta]

I think it would be very appropriate at this point in the discussion to remind Russy to get his hand offa my ass.

:thumbsup:

My turn Sticky....... ? ........ maybe ....... yea?

ill share my giant taco recipe with ya.

[Sticky Fumblings]

My turn Sticky....... ? ........ maybe ....... yea?

ill share my giant taco recipe with ya.

LOL! :flirt:

[The Dude]

I'm married so I don't foster any friendships with any attractive females.

Firstly, why do anything that might make my wife uncomfortable? She has no reason to mistrust me but human nature is to sometimes irrationally be concerned about things so why set her up for that?

Secondly, I'd like to think of myself as a very moraled guy who loves his wife dearly but why would I put myself in a position where there could possibly be temptation? Again, human nature is such that you can't assume that you will always do the right thing every single time. So this is avoiding the first step of a possible road that may lead to something inappropriate. Again, no need to do it.

There have been times where i've worked with very attractive women and I am of course polite and professional but there is a level of humor and of casual conversation and of friendly teasing (flirting) that I don't allow myself to participate in. Which is sometimes difficult because that's my personality.

So, there you go.

[DPW]

What's that whipping sound coming out of Gainesville?

[TheWagesofSin]

What's that whipping sound coming out of Gainesville?
Ever notice how people's early posts are really agressive? It's like "wahh, I'm feeling left out of the group, look, here I am! Wahhhhhhhhhhhh".

[DPW]

I was referring to the impending tropical storm.

[The Dude]

Ever notice how people's early posts are really agressive? It's like "wahh, I'm feeling left out of the group, look, here I am! Wahhhhhhhhhhhh".

Wow, a new record...six posts to ignore.

[TheWagesofSin]

I was referring to the impending tropical storm.
Tropical storms whip?:wtf:

[TedBellLover]

Attraction is not a choice. It's organic, you can't manufacture it because you think a girl is a great person. You may love who she is and care about her, but she'll never be a "sex-object" to you. Those who say otherwise are fooling themselves. I have a string of ex-gf's who aren't good, sweet and genuine like girl/friends I have who would date me tomorrow.
And I don't apologize for it. That's no personality flaw in myself, that's universal law. Women and men are exactly the same way in that respect.

Sorry Russy, still :gay:

[AB]

Tropical storms whip?:wtf:

tropical storm Sarah Lee

[Boss]

Wow, a new record...six posts to ignore.

A classic Dude quip. :rock:

[FearAndLoathingInSoCal]

What's that whipping sound...

That's what she said.









:runaway:

[Don Berman]

I voted yes. It is tough though, really tough.

[HOLY JEEZ]

I'm married so I don't foster any friendships with any attractive females.

Firstly, why do anything that might make my wife uncomfortable? She has no reason to mistrust me but human nature is to sometimes irrationally be concerned about things so why set her up for that?

Secondly, I'd like to think of myself as a very moraled guy who loves his wife dearly but why would I put myself in a position where there could possibly be temptation? Again, human nature is such that you can't assume that you will always do the right thing every single time. So this is avoiding the first step of a possible road that may lead to something inappropriate. Again, no need to do it.

There have been times where i've worked with very attractive women and I am of course polite and professional but there is a level of humor and of casual conversation and of friendly teasing (flirting) that I don't allow myself to participate in. Which is sometimes difficult because that's my personality.

So, there you go.

You are a man of great integrity with a strong sense of fidelity.

There has lately been discussion of the so-called emerging phenomenon known as 'work spouses,' and then of course the 'married singles' that Phil has mentioned.

I think there's definitely a shift occuring with regard to what sorts of behavior and what lines of conversation are acceptable.

And it is admirable that you've adopted an appearance of impropriety test with which to gauge everyday situations, versus drawing the line at actual veritable instances of impropriety. Because it can certainly be a slippery slope (no pun intended).

Oh, yeah. To address the original question with a Chris Norton response: Get faded alone with a chick, and then you'll know for sure if she's got a high hottability factor. And if she don't, then she's most likely either an oinker or a three-bagger.

[Gen_J_Jameson]

voted no. never worked for me, but i can only speak from personal experience.

[Justin McElroy]

One day your relationship will be on the rocks and you will look up and see your friend. At that time you will know what to do! :chicks: